The consultation
A free 30-minute vibe check lets both partners meet John, ask questions, and decide whether the fit feels right.
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How Couples Counseling Works With John
Couples counseling is more than learning the right words. It is about understanding the pattern that takes over, what each partner is protecting, and how to create a different experience together.
Emotionally Focused Therapy in plain English
Look underneath the argument
John's approach is attachment-based and informed by Emotionally Focused Therapy, often called EFT. Attachment is the basic human need to know that an important person is available, responsive, and emotionally engaged. When that connection feels threatened, people often protest, defend, pursue, or pull away.
Narrative therapy helps couples question discouraging stories about themselves and the relationship. Practical tools help you carry new awareness into the week instead of leaving it in the counseling session.
The first session
John learns what brings you in, what each partner hopes for, and what happens when conversations go off track.
Identifying the cycle
Together, you map the repeating sequence—pursuing, defending, criticizing, withdrawing, or shutting down—that leaves both people stuck.
New ways of responding
John slows down important moments so each partner can understand what is happening emotionally and practice a different response.
Rebuilding safety and trust
The work moves toward more honest conversations, more reliable repair, and a relationship that can feel steadier and more team-oriented.
A fair question
Will You Take Sides?
John's role is not to decide who is right and who is wrong. There may be times when he challenges one partner more directly, and other times when he challenges the other.
The goal is not to find a winner. It is to help both of you understand how the pattern between you keeps you stuck—and begin fighting less against each other.
Free 30-minute consultation
Ready for a low-pressure first step?
A free 30-minute vibe check gives both of you room to ask questions and see whether working with John feels like a good fit.
$175 per 50-minute session