The reassurance cycle
A worried partner asks for reassurance. It helps for a moment, then the worry returns and the question comes again. The other partner answers, then answers with less patience, then starts to withdraw. The withdrawal feeds the worry, and the loop tightens.
John helps couples see that cycle as the shared problem. Neither partner is the villain. Each is responding to the other in ways that make sense and keep the pattern going.
Phone checking and monitoring
Checking a partner's phone, location, or messages can feel like the only way to quiet the anxiety. The partner being checked may feel mistrusted and controlled, even when they have nothing to hide. Over time, the checking can become its own source of conflict.
If jealousy follows a real breach of trust, the work looks different, and John will help you address that directly. When it does not, the focus is on understanding where the insecurity comes from and building security between you.
Anxious and avoidant pulls
In many couples, one partner tends to move toward closeness when anxious while the other tends to move toward space. Neither is wrong. But when the anxious partner reaches and the other steps back, both fears are confirmed.
John's attachment-based approach looks at these pulls with compassion. In session, each partner can put words to what they feel when the other reaches or retreats, which often changes how those moves are received.
Building security that lasts
Lasting security usually comes less from answering the same question again and more from experiencing your partner as reliably responsive. That can include small, predictable signs of connection and a new way of talking about worry when it shows up.
No counselor can guarantee an outcome. Many couples notice fewer late-night spirals and more trust in the relationship's steadiness over time.
What a session actually looks like
Sessions are 50 minutes together by telehealth, with both of you in Texas. John often starts with a recent moment when the worry spiked, such as a late reply or an unfamiliar name in a conversation.
He slows it down: what the worried partner imagined, what the other felt when the question came, and how each responded. John helps the worried partner express the fear underneath the question and helps the other respond to that fear rather than defend against the accusation.
You may leave with a plan for what to do the next time worry rises, one that invites connection rather than interrogation.
A calmer place to begin
The free 30-minute consultation lets both partners meet John and ask how he works.
Sessions are $175 for 50 minutes, private pay, by telehealth across Texas.
Common Questions
What if the jealousy comes from something that actually happened?
Then trust repair is part of the work. John helps couples address the breach directly, and the page on rebuilding trust describes that process more fully.
Is this about fixing the jealous partner?
No. John works with the pattern between both of you. The reassurance cycle involves both partners, and both have a part in changing it.
How long are sessions and what do they cost?
Sessions are 50 minutes and $175. The first 30-minute consultation is free. John works on a private-pay basis and does not bill insurance directly, though some couples have out-of-network benefits worth asking their plan about.
Take the Next Step
If any of this sounds like your relationship, the next step is a free 30-minute consultation. Both of you can meet John, ask what you want to ask, and decide together whether to schedule a first session. You can also call or text 817-381-0691.